This is when its ok to call in sick after a breakup

This is when its ok to call in sick after a breakupThis is when its ok to call in sick after a breakupYouve just experienced a breakup and leid only might you feel sad, angry, disappointed and emotionally and physically exhausted (or numb), you might also feel like you cant possibly go to work in the morning.Now what?In the perfect world, we could all take as many days off as we need to mourn the end of our relationship. But we dont, so as much as you might want to tell your boss that youll be MIA for the foreseeable future, your options are likely much mora limited. How limited though? The answer is it depends.Whether or leid you can take a day off of work to cry it all out and try to regroupor if you instead have no other choice than to get straight back to work without missing a beat, depends on two thingsWhat kind of employer you work for, andWhat kind of employee youve beenLets delve into those two thingsWhat kind of employer you haveGood employers understand and untersttzungsan gebot the fact that their employees are human beings. And what that means in practice is that your boss or manager will realize that sometimes, things will happen in your personal life thatll end up affecting your work life more than it usually would.In such a case, a great employer would give you ample space and freedom to pull yourself together when whatever personal life issue knocks you downwhether thats a breakup or any other possible personal issue (family emergencies, having your property damaged or broken into, etc.) This space allows you to think and / or grieve in a healthy, private way.Without having this bit of breathing room away from your everyday work grind, youll likely carry your stress and emotions to work with you, which (as supportive employers know) will ultimately impact the company in a negative way either by impacting your own work or others around you.Here are some signs that youve got a great boss or employer who would be supportive of you taking the day o ff after a breakupWhat kind of employee you areEven the best employers have to set expectations for their employees and then hold them accountable to those expectations. As a matter of fact, its almost impossible to be a great employer without clear guidelines and consequences.While most workplace guidelines are indeed pretty clear and straightforward, great employers typically allow some room for crises in your personal life, self-care, mental health issues, and more. Theres one catch, however great employees dont abuse the privilege they have.So if youve missed work unexpectedly more than a handful of times, are on a performance improvement plan, or received less-than-stellar ratings on your most recent performance review, you might not be in a position to call in sick after your breakup. If this is the case, approach work with a positive attitude. Consider it a sanctuarya welcome distraction from the chaos youre experiencing in your personal life. Go to work, work hard, choose n ot to talk about what youre experiencing, and enjoy the break.you have a workplace wellness programyour employer offers an employee assistance program (EAP)your boss cares about your well-being on a regular basis and asks how youre feelingyour boss and/or coworkers encourage you to go home when youre distracted by something thats going on in your personal lifeyour employer has consistently had positive reviews from current and former employeesyour boss talks about how theyre feeling and/or takes a day off when theyre facing personal battlesyou get personal days (or other paid time off, such as sick days) that you can use without explanation each yearOn the other hand, if youve observed your manager making disconcerting or unsupportive comments about other employees whove taken days off for personal reasons, or have seen a fellow employee go through a breakup too and not get support from their manager, you might want to go to work tomorrowand then look for another job.This article wa s originally published on Kununu.